Finding My Personal Style
There is nothing more powerful than feeling good in an outfit. The complex that overcomes me when I step out in a good fit! Is absurd! I love clothes, I love shoes, and I love walking down the street in an outfit that makes me feel like the coolest person in the world. I've had some fashion tragedies, I've definitely worn questionable combinations of garments, but even if at the time I didn't realize the atrocity I had on my body, I felt good.
I never dressed the way I wanted to dress in high school out of fear, I suppose. But, it turns out public high school is not like the movies, and bitches aren't walking down the halls in kitten heels and micro skirts (which is honestly rude that they made us believe that). So, for me, high school " fashion " consisted of a dusty ass pair of air force 1's, lulu lemon leggings, and a varying Brandy Melville crop top. I can safely say I no longer dress like this. Not that it's terrible to dress like this, I'd say that outfit in whichever form it took, depending on the day, was entirely reasonable for school. But it just got so fucking boring. I needed to get out, especially as someone who loves clothes and spends 90% of their money on clothes. Fashion is cool because it's self-expressive, creative, and subjective, and honestly, it can be whatever you want it to be. Finding my personal style was a journey and a half and I 100%, as I previously stated, made exciting decisions along the way, but I think I've finally found my personal style(s).
MILF. Ok, like what? Don't laugh; hear me out. I love a good milf, and honestly milf is an energy, an aura if you will. Obviously, I am not a milf because I am 18 and not a mother; however, I shop and dress like a milf. It's a sexy take on business casual x opulence-esque, and of course, I put my own little kick in there. I don't think milfs typically walk around in hot pink 6-inch platform pumps, but I do. Fashion is all about making it your own, fitting it to your style, your personality.
I'm not saying I have multiple personalities, at least I don't think I do, but I don't just dress MILF™; some days, it varies. Guess it just depends on how I'm feeling and the weather. But in actuality, it’s all about finding who and what you are through your clothes. If it feels right, then it’s right. Your personal style does not have to be exclusive to one theme, and it doesn't have to be synonymous with what "everyone else" is wearing. It also does not have to be crazy, original, never seen before. Whatever makes you feel good and confident is what you should wear. I wear heels… a lot. I'm 5'8, I don't mind being 6 foot most days because I like seeing above people's heads, and I like the way I feel in heels. I don't feel insecure being that height because I know I look good. The only people who get upset about my being that tall in heels are men, and usually, because they feel emasculated and hate that they're 5'9. Unfortunately, that is not my problem, babes <3.
My next point is, how to feel good/look good in clothes? People ask me this a lot, and I'm not sure where the disconnect is, but my answer is simply this; I know what looks good on me. That's not to say I don't test my limits and wear things I wouldn't normally wear/have a fear of not looking good on me. However, I know my body; I know what to shop for. Taking time to love your body and get to know yourself is imperative to slay and feel good. If I underestimated my looks and barely got to know myself, I wouldn't dress the way I do. I like flare jeans because they compliment my legs; I love wide-neck shirts because they accentuate my collar bone. I like cropped jackets, so you can still see my voluptuous bottom even in the winter season. I love long jackets because they make me feel important. I size myself accurately (most of the time) and don't buy jeans or expensive pants unless I can try them on first. And also believe I look good in everything I put on, and if you believe it, everyone will too. Or that's my narcissism, and I am blatantly blind to public perception; either way, fake it till you make it. If you see an outfit you like, don't let anything stop you from wearing it (unless it's hella expensive, in which case you should consult your bank account first).
Fashion and clothes should be fun. It shouldn't be something you dread or something that makes you feel insecure. Don't be afraid to try new things and branch out. Don't be concerned with judgment. Having a cool closet is way more fun than fitting in. If you have a hard time finding places to shop, go onto your style inspos social media and see what brands they tag, scroll through Pinterest, walk into a thrift or curated thrift store. Online reseller sites like Depop, Poshmark, and thredup are also great alternatives and are sustainable!!! Try limiting fast fashion consumption and practicing eco-consciousness. Maximize what you own and resell what you're done with.
That’s all. She’s short this week.
XOXOXOXOXOXO
DANI
