Christian Weissmann’s ‘Her, Him & I’: A Journey Through Queerness and Self-Discovery
Christian Weissmann has long been a recognizable name in the entertainment industry. This June, he took a bold leap into new creative territory, releasing his debut book—a collection of essays and poetry that blend vulnerability with unfiltered introspection. Released on June 11, the book traverses the highs and lows of life, love, and the self-discovery journey of adulthood. Deeply personal and relatable, it has struck a chord with fans who see glimpses of their own lives reflected in his words.
Reflecting on his journey, Weissmann shares how writing has long been his anchor. “Well, I was very gay and very sad. And I needed to put that into something, or else I was going to spontaneously combust.” From an early age, he turned to writing as a form of catharsis. "When I was younger, I was really into writing as a way to express my feelings without having to be so blunt about them," he says. In the spirit of his “Taylor Swift folklore era,” Weissmann began creating stories that were only sometimes autobiographical, blending real experiences with imagined ones. He was 19, in the closet, and mostly out only to his therapist. “They told me to keep writing and use that as a way to get more comfortable with who I was,” he recalls. “And I really took it to heart. As I came out, as I started dating men, I kept writing. It made dating less scary, and being queer less scary.”
Weissmann’s artistic versatility spans acting, writing, and a lifelong love for art. When asked what it means to be a creative, he pauses, then responds thoughtfully, “Being a creative is about living. If I’m not creating, I’m not really living.” For him, creativity is an immersive experience, one that pushes him to step out of his comfort zone and embrace new connections and adventures. “If I’m truly living,” he says, “I’m out there, experiencing, taking risks. That’s what fuels my craft.” He then shared a realization he made throughout his coming out experience. “I realized that I need to live so that I can continue to create, and I need to create so I can continue to live.”
Among his influences, Weissmann shares a love for Sex and the City, crediting it with inspiring him to live more boldly. “Whenever I watch it, I just want to live like a 20-something writer,” he laughs, a nod to his own passion for embracing life. This sense of adventure fuels his creative work, allowing him to weave personal experiences into narratives that feel both fresh and familiar.
Weissmann is refreshingly down-to-earth, sharing amusing quirks that show a different side to his introspective persona. “I’m incredibly good at parallel parking,” he jokes, calling it his “toxic masculine trait.” He also boasts a “disgustingly loud clap,” which he laughingly describes as “sounding like a bomb.” And then there’s his love for rooftops—sanctuaries where he can escape the noise and connect with friends in a meaningful way. He’s even curated a mental list of favorite lookouts around Los Angeles and beyond. Though he jokes about “gatekeeping” these spots, he hints that someday he might share them with fans looking for similar moments of solitude.
As our conversation wraps up, Weissmann reflects on his broader career ambitions, noting that his focus is on authenticity and crafting stories that resonate deeply. “I want to create stories that make people feel something,” he says, acknowledging it may sound “cliché” but emphasizing that it’s his true measure of success. It’s a mission rooted in empathy, shaped by his own experiences. “When I was younger, struggling with things, I didn’t see people struggling in art or on TV,” he confides. By sharing his struggles, he hopes to provide solace to those who may feel similarly alone.
The day after, Weissmann is brimming with excitement as he heads to his book signing at Barnes & Noble—a “full circle moment” after years of wandering bookstores, dreaming of the day his own work would grace the shelves. As he signs books and meets readers, Weissmann reflects on the journey from those quiet bookstore moments to the celebration of his debut work, a testament to his commitment to storytelling.
As Christian Weissmann continues to make his mark in entertainment, one thing is clear: he’s a storyteller with purpose. Through his work, he seeks not only to entertain but to inspire others to live authentically. His debut book is just the beginning—a window into the heart of a creative whose passion promises to leave a lasting impact. To celebrate, special Valentine’s Day signed copies are now available at The Strand in New York City, both online and in-store.
